People boil down to body parts in the eyes of gender-binary elitists
Let‘s say someone asks you, What is a man? Or, What is a woman? I’d personally have to stop to think in order to appropriately verbalize my thoughts and feelings about the question. But for others, the issue seems to be a lot more cut and dry.
There are many people who, when push comes to shove, believe that body parts are the indisputable identifier of what constitutes a woman or a man. But what does that say about what we as a society think about ourselves? This simplistic attitude seems even more poignant in the context of women. What does it say about how us women think about ourselves when some of us mount the gender-is-defined-by-body-parts argument?
Isn’t that the equivalent of self-objectifying? I for one believe that it is. It’s women saying that we are our breasts, we are our vaginas — perhaps unknowingly devaluing the whole feminist push for us to be regarded for something beyond our physical selves. (more…)
Drop your pants and prove you belong in this restroom
There’s a post on the group LGBTQ blog The Bilerico Project by a woman who was harassed in a women’s locker room because of her gender presentation. Namely, it conflicted with mainstream society’s idea of what a woman should look like. In response, the blogger said she lifted her shirt to display her breasts in order to silence the person who was targeting her. I totally understand her reaction, especially considering the fact that she routinely encounters such problems.
Now, please understand, I go through this every day, all the time. I get called sir, I get the look up and down when I go to the restroom.
Still, I am opposed to showing body parts in order to legitimize access to gender-designated restrooms. That kind of reasoning goes against the whole idea that gender identity is separate from sexuality, and even sex characteristics. In a roundabout way, it bolsters the argument, for instance, that non-op male-to-female transsexuals have no business using women’s restrooms. Because, hey, they would fail the body part test if they had to drop their pants.
Update on my tattoo removal
Numerous people have been asking, so…
As I mentioned here, it wasn’t as painful as I thought it was going to be. In fact, it was nothing compared to how I used to feel during electrolysis. Also, the tattoo gun administers an anesthetic as it traces the markings of the artwork.
A scab formed over the course of two weeks after the procedure, and yesterday it began the process of falling off. Quite gross, lemme tell you. Taking a shower has been a pain, because I have to shield the area on my arm completely from water. What I do is protect it with plastic wrap and then keep it in place with masking tape. It smarts when I remove it! I also wasn’t allowed to put any medication or ointment on it.
In the areas where the scab has already fallen off, I could still see the color of the tattoo, although it’s noticeably lighter. I will have to go for a few follow-up sessions.
Recent trans bookmarks on MyDelicious
Sex-Based Discrimination — Information from the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission on sex-based discrimination, including a link to a page about Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964, which may provide a basis for legal action regarding discrimination against individuals based on the fact that they are trans.
Trans-Ponder Podcast — A show for those considering, beginning or in the process of gender transition. The show shares experiences and insights on transition with a positive look.
Employment Nondiscrimination Act information — Information from the National Center for Transgender Equality regarding the Employment Nondiscrimination Act, including a synopsis of what it is, tips on how to contact legislators and how to monitor ENDA’s status.
YouTube series on post-facial feminization surgery — TrannyGirl15’s candid series of YouTube videos documenting her facial feminization surgery. The video is one of several that she posted to her account.
Inspirational words that Gloria Steinem wrote
We are all organizers, and no organizer should ever end a meeting or a book without ideas for practical action. After all, a movement is only people moving. What are we going to do differently when we get up tomorrow?
I generally thought reading Outrageous Acts and Everyday Rebellions by Gloria Steinem was a chore. Even the more potentially likable parts of the book were tainted with fanaticism. For instance, I was looking forward to reading Steinem’s essay on transsexualism, but it was misinformed, judgmental and ignorantly unsympathetic. And then there was the exposé on Playboy bunnies, which was ruined by Steinem’s heavy-handedness and overstatement. A lot of the book was just flat-out boring, too.
But it wasn’t a total loss. It helped me put the overall women’s movement into perspective, and I also generally like being exposed to ideas that span the spectrum, even if I don’t agree with some of them. I simply read the book with a proverbial grain of salt and gleaned the good stuff. Also, I did come away with genuine inspiration after reading a couple of passages about activism and self-empowerment in the section titled Far from the Opposite Shore. One of the quotes is above. The other:
… I now often end lectures with an organizer’s deal. If each person in the room promises that in the next twenty-four hours beginning the very next day, she or he will do at least one outrageous thing in the cause of simple justice, then I promise I will. It doesn’t matter if the act is as small as saying, ‘Pick it up yourself’ (a major step for those of us who have been the servants in our own families) or as large as organizing a strike. The point is that, if each of us does as promised, we can be pretty sure of two results. First, the world one day later won’t be quite the same. Second, we will have such a good time that we will never again get up in the morning saying, ‘Will I do anything outrageous?’ but only ‘What outrageous act will I do today?’
My tattoo’s days are numbered
Yup, the ugly artwork on my right arm is on death row. I made an appointment for tattoo removal on July 24 — almost exactly a year after I went for the initial consultation. I’ll be going to the same place. To recap, the place uses this special saline solution to draw the ink from the skin, administering it via a regular tattoo gun. Fun, right?
But it’ll be worth it. I can’t even convey what a pain in the neck it has been to be unable to wear sleeveless tops and dresses, as well as tops with short-short sleeves. It’s even more frustrating during the heat of the Las Vegas summer. And overall, I just HATE hiding my body. It’s also a hindrance as far as the issue of intimacy with partners who would prefer not to see such a marking.
I want to leave Goodreads, ’cause it’s a mess
I admit it: I can be quite shallow and picky when it comes to Web design aesthetics. But in my defense, Goodreads is very poorly organized, and let’s face it — it’s kinda ugly, too.
The site is done in drab tannish shades, and what really frustrates me is that it’s designed in a way that makes it difficult to distinguish all the different sections of users’ pages. It does have strong points, however, particularly the social Web integration and the ability to connect with other users.
But I’m a sucker for visually pleasing, uncluttered Web design. So, I’ve been cheating on Goodreads with Bookwormr. But it hasn’t been a very satisfying affair. The site is relatively well organized, but it’s a bit too rudimentary, with no social Web features (a major drawback, as far as I’m concerned) and limited functionality for interacting with other users. The sad thing is Bookwormr is the best I could find on the Web at the moment — preferable, for example, to the likes of Connect Via Books, Revish, Library Thing and Shelfari.
I currently have high hopes for BookRabbit, which is gearing up to relaunch. The blog is downright pretty, and today there was a post giving a sneak peek at the site’s re-design. It looks promising enough for me to up and leave Goodreads. Heck, even BookRabbit’s Twitter page looks lovely.
Huge dork on OKCupid put his foot in his mouth
This guy sent me a message earlier today on OKStupid, I mean OKCupid, saying he was thinking of writing a book about “men living as women” and wanted to interview me. Man? Where? I don’t see any.
To make matters worse, he sent me several messages over the past week or two insinuating he was interested in me romantically, but he admitted in today’s message that he was just trying to trick me into talking with him. Nice. Real nice.
Are there no limits to the dorkdom on OKCupid?
The woman downstairs re: my drums
So, I spoke to the woman downstairs yesterday about my plan to buy a drum set. Guess what? She said she wouldn’t mind if I practiced in my apartment. Only thing is, she’s planning to move out in July.

